Here I am with the latest updates of the real fears I faced in the Facing Fears Experiment. :)
Today is day 28 of the fear experiment - and yes - there is no doubt that all these 28 days have been quite challenging and exciting at the same time!
(For those who don’t know, the fear experiment is my attempt at facing a fear a day for 30 days in a row. You can learn more about it here. )
So what fears did I face in the last week? And what lessons did I learn from facing these fears?
I’ll tell you right away.
I did actually face 8 real fears in the last eight days - and I can still feel a tinge of excitement and satisfaction as I think about those fears.
Here are 4 of them.
1) I called up a friend I hadn’t called in 10 years - and whom I was really afraid to call. I felt a feeling full of calmness sweep through me after calling him. :)
2)I danced in the middle of a busy marketplace for some seconds because I felt like it despite many people watching me. I was terribly scared to do this, but felt AMAZING after doing this.
3)I told my parents about a certain thing I planned to do next month despite knowing that they would vehemently oppose it. I could have hidden it from them - since they live in another city anyway - but I chose to tell the truth.
4)I called a professor who taught me in college even though I was extremely scared to get in touch with him. :)
There is no denying the fact that after facing each of these fears, I felt Amazing with a capital A. Facing the 8 fears, made me feel more meaningful about my life and existence …
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When I think of all the real fears I have faced this week, two things pop into my mind.
The first thing is that any fear just vanishes once you go ahead and face it.
Maybe I’ve already talked about this in previous posts about the fear experiment, but this statement seems so powerful to me that I just have to repeat it.
When I thought of dancing in a public place just because I felt like it, I felt extremely scared. What would that family there think about my behavior”? Would someone call me a madcap? Would everyone around think I was a moron? I felt so afraid that I thought I wouldn’t dance and forget about this fear. Maybe I could face it later.
But then, before I knew it, I started dancing! After I had danced for some seconds, I felt AMAZING! There wasn’t any reaction from the people around me anyway and my fear had vanished! If I were asked to dance again - I could now do so without any fear whatsoever. That was interesting. :)
The point is that what had made me feel so scared just a while ago, was now very easy - as soon as I had gone ahead and faced my fear.
So yes - this was one thing that I have really learnt during this experiment: as soon as you go ahead and face a fear - it vanishes. Fear just cannot stand in the light of your confidence to go beyond it. It gets scared ;).
The second fascinating thing I learnt is that it feels extremely good to face a fear. When you do something you are scared of doing despite being scared, you feel a special power within yourself. You realize that you are a wonderful person who is stronger than fear and who actually rocks! I really felt this after facing all of my fears. We may keep telling ourselves artificially that we are wonderful human beings but when we face a fear, we actually feel this deep within ourselves, naturally. I can guarantee that if you do something you are really afraid of today, you will feel very, very good about yourself and your day will rock.
Whatever the lessons learnt, the sheer “high” of rising above my fears…has made the fear experiment worth it. :)
If you are not already a part of the Facing Fears Experiment, jump in! There is absolutely nothing to loose, and a new world full of confidence, joy, and freedom to gain. :) Just make a list of 30 things you are really afraid of doing and commit to facing each of these fears a day for the next 30 days. I bet, you’ll have an amazing experience facing these fears…
Here is a list of 5 sample fears:
1)Telling your wife/girlfriend/close friend/husband/boyfriend something about yourself that you have always hidden from them.
2)Dancing in the street for 15 seconds while people watch.
3)Creating an opportunity to address an audience of more than 50 people.
4)Asking your boss for a raise.
5)Telling a stranger of the opposite sex that he or she is looking beautiful.
All the best! I’ll be back with a final update of the Facing Fears Experiment after it ends.
See you soon. :)
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